My Mother in a Sphere gave birth to mee,
That I might contemplate Rotunditie;
And be more Pure of kind than other things,
By Right of Dignitie the Peer of Kings. 

In between what you don’t know and what you won’t admit, there’s an endless supply of counterfactual beliefs. What defines you is the nature of those that you choose, or those that choose you. Like attracts like.